What would happen if he married you and you became sick one day? This cannot all be about the illness and the son. Both the son and the wife would likely prefer him to be open and leave the marriage rather than cheat on and humiliate his wife. Is your boyfriend possibly the sort of guy who is a people pleaser, who wants to come out of all situations looking like roses? Is he a narcissist?
Sam Vaknin would likely say yes.
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Here he gets to be the loyal husband, the devoted dad, AND the dashing, romantic boyfriend. Where does he lose? Yet, all three of the other people involved in the situation, you, his wife, and his son, are losing. You because you don't get either this or another, since you're invested in him truly committed, monogamous partnership, his wife because he is cheating on her, and his son because he would probably feel betrayed, angry and saddened if he ever discovered his father's infidelity.
I understand that this relationship was new, exciting, and fulfilling in ways that your marriage was not. However, just because you did not find this with your ex-husband does not mean that your current boyfriend is the only one with whom you can experience love and passion. There are many single men who would feel lucky to have you.
My divorced clients in your age group are always surprised by the sheer number of available, attractive potential matches that can be found by even a cursory glance through online dating websites.
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I encourage you to seek counseling, both to discuss why you stayed in an unhappy marriage for as long as you did, and then to turn to why you may be getting involved in a situation where your needs are not being prioritized. I would imagine that early in life , you learned somehow that women's needs do not matter within intimate relationships, and this has shaped your ideas about male female interactions. I wish you luck, this is not an easy road ahead of you no matter what you choose.
But I am confident you can find a romantic situation that is more straightforward and less fraught with potential hurt. This post was originally published here on Dr. Rodman's private practice here. This blog is not intended as diagnosis, assessment, or treatment, and should not replace consultation with your medical provider. Tap here to turn on desktop notifications to get the news sent straight to you.
He's telling you that his marriage is fine and that he's not going anywhere. Best-case scenario, he's someone who should never have gotten married and is searching for his next side piece. Worst-case scenario, he's a scumbag who takes advantage of unsuspecting women to get off, preying on their vulnerabilities in the bleachers during batting practice.
Where's the fairy-tale ending? Where's the ending that results in anything but disaster? Could he be feeling something for you? But I think the more appropriate question is: What does it matter?
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Instead of focusing on him, let's focus on you. You said you always attract married men -- the very definition of the unavailable dream. Why do you think that is? Granted, given your son's age and extracurricular activities, these are the guys you most frequently come across, so it could be a product of circumstance. But if I had to bet, I'd say there's more to it than that. I don't believe you're consciously pursuing other people's husbands, but I do believe they keep showing up on your doorstep for a reason. While I accept that there's much in life we can't control, I do think that the worlds we create for ourselves aren't created by accident.
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They are often a reflection of our inner thoughts and beliefs. To a certain extent, our lives play out as a self-fulfilling prophecy.
So I'm wondering what's making you invest in this toxic relationship. What purpose or void is it filling? Do you not believe you're worthy of something better? Do you not believe you're worthy of happiness? Deep down, is there something that's convinced you that this is the best that you deserve? I don't know, and I'm not going to guess.
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In realigning with my mission statement for this column, I'll let you be the one to decide. Check out the most recent installments: The Pitfalls of Infatuation. Friends With Benefits -- With a Twist. Tap here to turn on desktop notifications to get the news sent straight to you. Brent Stoller To send in a question, please complete this short Google form.
After all, this column wouldn't exist without your questions, so please keep them coming. Questions have been modified for space and clarity. Jlag; Orlando, FL In one of the first editions of this column , I explained how, in my answers, I wouldn't be telling people what they should or shouldn't be doing. Unfortunately, with this question, I'm having trouble adhering to my mission statement.