Young women up to say about 24 should not be interested in or desire anything more from an older men but sex and fun. A purely sexual relationship. Interesting how you make the most apparent age difference example 27 and The time where both are looking at a fast approaching mile stones. Her turning 30 soon and entering her last few years of healthy childbearing years and him well turning Everyone knows that when a woman is that close to 30 she is engaging desperate mode, desperate for a provider for the children she wants and they need to arrive soon.
Pointing out beautiful YOUNG women that older men want never went after a career where she makes her own money since she has gotten everything she ever wanted money wise given to her in payment for her company. Everyone also knows that the usual younger women that men over 45 get with are usually 18 to not much older than Once a girl hits that 25ish age she has lost her little girl looks and thats really what men want.
Many thanks staciejaxx for such a unique perspective on this topic, which is invaluable. You are right, it is far more important to be a relationship where the need to communicate is well-served, than to be in a relationship where other needs dominate. At the same time, let's acknowledge that other needs are as relevant, if not more. A balance of needs makes a relationship successful.
Thank you once again. I learned something new from you today.
Older men often date younger women, but everyone can benefit when the age gap is reversed
I have to chime in here because I could not honestly take some of the comments on here seriously. However, there were a few who actually held weight and substance. The comments that I took seriously were the ones in which realistically depicted what could possibly happen if I were to marry someone considerably older than I am.
First of all, if you are dating someone or married to someone that is 15 yrs. For couples who are 15 yrs or less apart no one is going to be looking at you and saying or wondering why you two decided to be together. I don't think by looking at two people with such an age gap one would be able to decipher the fact that a there is an age gap or b that it is even consequential to the relationship.
Especially, if you are a female in your twenties and he is in his thirties.
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If anything, you as the female would enjoy so many benefits from dating or being married to someone that much older as opposed to being 30 yrs. I was equally not impressed or moved by the comments in which twenty year old females spoke about being with men who were 55 yrs. A man in his 40's and possibly up to the age of is still active and can remain verile if he has remained in relatively good health.
Of course, this might not be the case for all men but tends to generally be true for most men. What some young women who are in their 20's fail to realize is that if they are dating a man who is yrs. So pretty much what you see is what you get. However, we can honestly say that a woman who is in her twenties will most certainly experience many things in her life for the next 20 yrs. These experiences may or may not help determine whether or not your relationship with an older man is going to be successful or not.
It is unfair for "you" as a young lady to deprive yourself of these experiences however colorful these experiences may be just so you can settle into a comfortable life of being taken care of. Not all women who marry older men want to be taken care of but if this is your only motivation then you have "bigger fish to fry". Eventually, the universe will show you just how big.
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Especially, if you are in your twenties. Allow this decade to be about you learning what your likes and dislikes are without being necessarily told what they are by someone who thinks they know what your likes and dislikes are simply because they are older than you. Of course, not every man that is substantially older than his woman wants to control her. However, as another commenter pointed out there is something to be said about a man who is dating someone yrs. Why is he unable to work things out with someone closer to his age?
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If he is married and seeing you why hasn't he gotten a divorce yet? If you are truly the love of his life why hasn't he committed himself to establishing a healthy relationship with you? These are all questions I had to ask myself when I was faced with a similar situation. So please, don't think I am on here to be bitter or discourage you from living your best life. If anything, I want you to live your best life knowing you are getting what you rightfully deserve.
I am in my late thirties seeing a man in his early fifties. I don't see this as a big deal because I have lived life and experienced things. I have dated men ten years younger than myself. While they have been fun they weren't necessarily marriage material. I would never expect that from a man who is still in his twenties. This is why I allowed the relationship to be about having a good time and only this. I am also, able to support myself so I don't need to date any man whether younger or older for his money. I have an 18 yr. There will be plenty of time to settle down with whomever you want to with later but these yrs.
As far as the bit about dating an older man The age will have nothing to do with the level of intimacy you share after the age of You should also, both be able to take care of each other mutually. In other words don't allow yourself to become somebody's caregiver off the bat. The situation differs if you have been with someone for sometime and they eventually end up becoming sick where you have to take care of them exclusively.
Versus, you being in your twenties and dating someone who is in their fifties or older knowing eventually you will have to take care of this person. You have to honestly ask yourself is this something you want to be doing in your forties and fifties. Think about it when your forty, that person who you found attractive, sexy and virile in your twenties will be in their 60's to 80's if they were 20 to 40 yrs.
Will it really be as attractive as it seems right now as you get older. My parents are ten years apart. All my mother wants to do right now in her late sixties is travel while facing the reality that she has to be a caregiver to my dad in his late seventies who doesn't want to go anywhere. They only have a ten year age gap. Can you imagine the couples who have an age gap of 20 or more years. Furthermore, women tend to outlive men. These are all things I think about in my own relationship. For those, women in their twenties, as some other commenters pointed out I would really like to hear from women who are with men yrs.
Perhaps creating a family as well. Particularly, those women who are now over the age of 45 and their men are 60 and older. These are the women who I would like to chime in because this is where the age difference really does make a difference. This article doesn't match my experience, or that of my Wife.
I guess we must be an acception to the rule here. We are 11 years in difference and I will tell you It doesn't really matter.
What matters is how you feel about eachother. Love doesn't discriminate, only people with hate in their hearts do, and the majority of those relationships are doomed to fail from the start. We've been married for nearly 18 years, have 3 children, 1 of which is only 5 years old, and all perfectly healthy. Her parents were very accepting of the relationship because we didn't just jump in the deep end.
We took our time getting there, and it took a lot of work.