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Please, don't go tell anybody, ever, to "just go Many people "just can't Edited on February 28, at If it was insulting, that's on you. YOU were the one who mentioned "fat girls", not me. And no, it's not easy, its very difficult to lose excess pounds. Getting excess weight is easy.
Not eating excessively is hard. Just agreeing to find someone who likes overweight, overly sensitive females is easy, actually finding one is hard. Blame yourself and fix it yourself. I know its not easy but if you think its hard now, wait another few years when you're obese and try to lose it then. Have a nice day.
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You have way more issues than just being overweight If being sick of simple-minded answers to complicated problems is "having way more issues" then, yes, I do. Zombie Send a private message. Speaking from experience as a fat person in the process of losing weight, attraction or lack thereof comes from your current state not where you'll end up. Jess Send a private message. Some people have medical conditions preventing them from losing weight see PCOS, Cushings, hypothyroidism, etc.
Some have injuries and ailments that prevent them from exercising. Some have depression and mental health issues where, much like a heroin addict, food is literally their drug.
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I believe your reply is an oversimplification. There are often many other factors and the "Hey, put down the fork, fatty" method of "helping" an overweight person is not the most effective, especially if there's a heavy cycle of depression involved in which food is a means to self-medicate, and there are other factors already making weight loss incredibly difficult to begin with. Just saying, respectfully, that things aren't always as black-and-white as you're painting them out to be ThisGal Send a private message.
I'm fit and it's not easy. I make fitness a priority and fight to keep it on my schedule - even if some days it's me having to run at 5AM or 10PM. I also have to exercise discipline. Meh, sometimes, but when I look in the mirror I can appreciate the work and sacrifice for my looks and health. I agree my response was an oversimplification but this is a message board, not a medical consultation. Also, I agree with you that medical conditions do affect a person's weight but the OP did not post "Due to medical conditions I'm overweight And also, I didn't tell her to "put down the fork, fatty" or even tell her to lose weight.
I asked why not lose the weight? If her response was "medical condition", fine.
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But she didn't lead me to believe her excess weight was anything she couldn't get a handle on should she decide to. And no, things aren't always as black and white but seriously We're limited in what we ask and what we can reply. Didn't work that way for you, you mean. People are judged on appearance before anything else enters the equation. Telling her to work out to become more attractive might work in the long run, but that doesn't mean she shouldn't look for a partner in the present.
At worse she finds a guy who's okay with her being fat and is pleasantly surprised when she loses weight. If she waits a year or two to lose the weight before dating, that's a ton of lost time and if she regains the weight, as most people do she risks losing her SO because he's not attracted to her anymore. Ill agree that you believe that and ill even go so far as to admit you could be right I've done make overs for years and the results I've seen on a daily basis were different. As you say many did revert back to gaining weight but those, in my experience, were the ones least dedicated to the program.
Many took a successful outcome and began adapting it Many began a program only to lose interest when they discovered beauty and attractiveness requires more from most than just being born. It took hard work, dedication to the goals and time. Many were unwilling to do all three. If the OP is satisfied with her weight, be my guest and shop around for someone who likes "fat girls" but if she finds him will he still be attracted to the new her IF she regains her health?
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But from my experiences, once a woman becomes more fit and attractive, the first thing they do is begin shopping for someone better than the guy who likes fat girls. We'll agree to disagree. But that theoretical guy isn't the one asking for help either. If we waited to be perfect before acting, nothing would ever happen. Thank you for a great response. Mossgard's response was typical, unfortunately. Agreed but perfection is a process that takes time. If we take a solid rectangular block of granite and each day we chip away one small piece of it that's not in the overall final plan, how long before the block of stone begins resembling Michelangelo's masterpiece, David?
The question is then how far into that process does it takes you to begin seeing this masterpiece and not just a block of granite?
I am overweight should I stick to dating sites for fat girls?
Some guys see the masterpiece while others continue to see the block of granite. That's the guy she should be looking for, not the ones who accept her unhealthy state and enjoy it. I asked why losing weight wasn't a consideration. If you're too "medically" disabled to lose weight I apologize.
Is your weight the result of medications or a medical condition? That's not a reasonable expectation. I knew I wasn't going to attract the guys who only dated women who were very thin and I didn't want to, because I knew I'd probably struggle with my weight to some degree for the rest of my life - and I wanted a guy I dated to be prepared for that.
I also didn't want to attract the guys who ONLY are attracted to fat women, especially guys who had such strong preferences that they wouldn't be able to handle me losing weight. I also know that most guys don't particularly like to date dieting women of any size they see them as "no fun" or they suspect the woman is going to try to change their diet habits too.
It was an interesting dilemma - but I didn't want to put my life on hold until some point in the future that might or might not come.
I knew from experience that was the biggest way to kill weight loss plans was to give up all the good stuff in life because I wasn't thin yet. So, what I did choose to do was to be extremely upfront and honest.
I listed my weight as around lbs, but that I was dieting and looking for a guy who was in a similar situation or who could be sympathetic to the lifestyle I was trying to live and who could love and support me, regardless of my weight or weight struggles. I made it clear that I wanted a guy for whom looks wasn't all that important, and likewise made it clear that looks weren't my top priority either.
I would NOT have picked hubby out of a catalog. He looked a bit like a stereotypical "big-biker dude" with long hair and a mustache. His idea of dressing up was trading his t-shirt for a henley. When I saw his picture, I was a little disappointed not that I found him unattractive, just not my type, as I'd never really bee attracted to facial hair or very long hair - his hair was to his waist.
I've also never been a big fan of red hair. But he was so incredibly my type on the phone, that I decided to meet him anyway. Within a few dates I began to see hubby differently. Instead of my first impression which was "kind of weird, nerdy fat, desk-jockey biker-wannabe who doesn't even have a motorcycle," to "incredibly hot, biker-viking barbarian warrior king. Put a pic of how you really do look now and like John said, update it. And he never hesitated. I would agree that you need to use current pictures. Be confident in who you are and open yourself up to just date.
Date guys who aren't your normal type or who aren't the perfect guy you have built up in your head. I think internet dating is a wonderful thing. I have asked friends about this and every one has told me that it matters more to them that a girl has confidence and is comfortable with herself than if she is overweight. You will automatically weed out the guys who care about the superficial by posting accurate pictures of yourself. They don't deserve you anyway. Last edited by CurvyNerd; at I've done on line dating also and never really had a full body picture up.