Neatist January 10, , 3: Flake January 10, , 3: So she should just stock up and lock herself in the house?? God forbid a single mom goes out and enjoys herself.. Sounds harsh, but so is reality, parenting and bills. Sometimes you ARE too busy to have fun. I think that making sure you are taken care of is just as important as making sure your child is taken care of. Oh I agree with you. I assume if one is unemployed and trying to provide for another mouth to feed, they are in serious financial straits, which I guess is not always the case.
I see how my comment seemed somewhat harsh, but honestly the last thing on my mind if I were in her position would be dating. Flake January 10, , 5: And I actually think that in a situation like this it is very reasonable to look for a distraction and a way to relax for at least a couple of hours in a company of another reasonable adult. Priorties come first, fun second. With ten years plus dating experience under my belt, I was unaware that new stilettos or a new wardrobe were required to date. How did I bumble my way into a relationship?! If she wanted to blow all her time and money on dating, that would obviously be a problem.
Flake January 10, , 4: The fact that she is even asking this question makes me think that she knows perfectly well what her priorities are and is feeling guilty about wanting to do something for herself at a difficult time. CatsMeow January 10, , 5: What a sexist and stupid assumption! Allison January 10, , Uh, no one said anything about buying new pumps? You can go to a park and walk around, or invite the person over for dinner at your home. And I seriously doubt that she never spends money on anything fun ever, so why not just pool some of that money and use on a date?
I think my comment was taking out of context. I was just stating that someone who is struggling to make ends meet with a child, I will take more seriously then a woman who blows her money. I should have been more clear. You know what helps to focus on your child and be a better parent? Getting a coffee break every once in a while. There is nothing selfish about wanting to be happy and to have support and company of a person you enjoy. Happy moms generally are better moms. No one knows what her intended budget is for dating because she never mentioned it, you assume one thing, I assume another.
The only question she asks is if she should start dating while she is unemployed. BriarRose January 10, , 4: So I am a huge supporter of the LW getting a chance to get out every so often. Any mother needs time to herself, working or not, single or not. Especially if the LW does not have adult interaction at work, she really could benefit from meeting other people, whether to date or just befriend.
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J1 January 12, , 6: Speaking from a male perspective, I have to disagee with those who say UM should stay home with the kid. Believe it or not, there are still guys who will pay for everything on a date except babysitting. For that, find a friend who wants to help you out, or date only on the nights dad has the kid s if that option is available.
Also, at the risk of sounding mercenary, dating can put you on the path to a much better life. My best friend finally booted her deadbeat husband and got a divorce in her early 40s, but still struggled for years. From a male perspective, a good body not Angelina Jolie, just not fat and out of shape on a woman in her 40s bumps her up at least two points on the appearance scale.
Readers in your 20s, consider your probabilty of winding up 40 and divorced before you get a tattoo. YouGoGirl January 10, , 3: I am a graduate student who is going through financial difficulties because my anticipated reimbursement to travel to a professional conference has been delayed. A friend got a similar lecture from her sisters and parents, who scolded her for having a holiday party when she was having financial issues.
Like the reader who is scolding the LW for wanting to date, these relatives expect me and my friend to do penance for our financial difficulties by living a niggardly existence in which we stay home and never go anywhere or do anything fun. I do not mean that the LW should not be frugal and watch her money carefully. She already knows this. Other readers have made good suggestions about doing free and inexpensive things on dates. I wish her good luck as she tries to date while watching her budget and caring for her daughter.
She has been through a lot. AmitR January 10, , 3: It depends on individuals and the sensitivity of one to political correctness which granted, perhaps we get are too sensitive , but the work can be seen as inflammatory: And anyone who has any sort of cultural awareness is going to realize that choosing to use niggardly will immediately make that connection for most people. Budj January 10, , 4: LSS86 January 10, , 6: The commenters on this site usually seem pretty darn pleased with themselves and consider themselves incredibly smart and quite frequently come off as know-it-alls.
Exactly the type of community where one would assume they could use less common words and people would know the meaning.
Still language, and words we use, are given meaning by people. And in a society where this word has generally fallen into disuse and is very similar to another taboo word, there will be a certain reaction. So if someone wants to use it, and defend it, okay cool. But there should be no suprise when it causes a fervour. But she used it in writing on a site where most of the users talk about their college educations, jobs, and seemingly try very hard to come off as intellectual.
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Wendy January 10, , 7: Listen, if you have such a problem with the community here, then leave. Trixy Minx January 10, , 8: Wendy January 10, , 8: AKchic January 10, , 7: I remember when my 3rd son got a stomach bug when he was 7 weeks old, and then every male in the house picked it up at the same time, and we had only one bathroom, and off-white carpet and a brand-new couch. Of course, we could all put on our big kid pants and realize that none of us is racist, slave-owning individuals and move on with life.
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But I never realized anyone would mix those two up until a politician got into trouble for using the word a few years ago and this same discussion happened. Soup January 10, , 4: Thanks for that link. Taylor January 10, , 4: Ever read the phd comics on travel reimbursement for graduate students? The LW also makes no real mention of her financial status.
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Its not punishment, its life and responsibility. It drives me up a wall. If she chooses to spend 5 bucks on coffee instead of sitting at home and being depressed, then it is her right. Sure its her right to do whatever she wants with her money. My point was more general than directed to her. Its unreasonable to say that people who are in a tough financial situations have to hang their heads and mope around until things improve. There are so many wonderful ways to have fun, or date, without spending a time.
Many communities have free events like free concerts or shows. You can meet up and go on walks in the park.
Just because she may not be flush with cash means she never gets to have fun or try to meet someone special. It just means she needs to be creative about doing it within a reasonable or limited budget. Why did I ever stop babysitting? Wendy January 10, , Ktfran January 11, , 9: I will offer to watch my friends kids when they want a night out. I wish my sister had a spending brain like you do!
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Ktfran January 10, , 5: She never once said she was flat out broke. The LW could happily be living well within her means, but is embarrassed by being unemplyoyed. You are absolutely right. ForeverYoung January 10, , 8: I say just proceed however you normally would when dating. Turtledove January 10, , 3: When you meet someone, understand that being unemployed may be a deal breaker for them so it may take a while.
So my main advice would be the same as I would give to any other woman. Really take your time and get to know a man before you let him into your heart. How I Manifested Committed Love. Do not talk non-stop about his job search. This is a sensitive subject matter, and it can make or break a couple.
Also, remember to take time away from the job search. Although you are on a budget, take advantage of movie nights with lots of cuddling, walks or something positive that you both enjoy.
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