Once you and her have been talking for awhile, you still might not know if she is really attracted to you. At this point it should feel weird for her to ask you for a dance because she is realizing that you are not an ordinary customer but a guy she might be romantically interested in. If you get this far, you're doing a good job but it's just a start.
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It becomes more evident whenever she gets called on stage to dance and afterwards comes back sitting with you without asking for a tip or dance. That is a HUGE sign that she is attracted to you. If you get this, you're in! She reveals her real name. It's no secret that all exotic dancers work under a different name at the strip club. In other words, when you first get their name it's their "stripper name" not their real name. It's for security reasons that all the girls work under a stage name, so stalkers cannot look them up.
Whenever a stripper tells you her real name, what that really means is that she feels comfortable around you. Not necessarily attracted, but she feels safe enough to open up to you and be her real self. This is almost my default way-point to find out if the stripper I'm talking to is a little bit comfortable around me.
I know that when she tells me her real name that I have almost completely have shut off her stripper programming and I am slowly talking to the real person. She tells you insider information. Whenever I feel it is really "on" when I'm picking up a stripper, I always end up on the same conversational topic: This is a recurring thread I've noticed.
So when the stripper you are picking up starts sharing insider info on the other girls that's a good thing! For example, she might share that some girls do drugs in the dressing room, others have done extras in VIP rooms, and so on.
Or on a similar note she might tell you how the management works in the strip club and what special rules they have. Either way, if she tells you anything like the above the pickup is going forward and in the right direction. Dead air is not a deal breaker anymore. When it comes to picking up strippers you need to be able to run your mouth for long periods of time. In the beginning of the conversation you have very little room for mistakes and dead air is lethal.
Any dead silence is just enough time to get the stripper back to her stripper persona and try to squeeze money out of you. However, later on whenever you have a lull in the conversation and she reinitiates the conversation, that's a good sign. Dead air is not lethal anymore and you can assume that she has some feeling of attraction towards you.
She hints at seeing you outside the venue. To get a strong timebridge and a solid phone number from strippers you need to build a really strong emotional connection. Strippers are the flakiest girls in the world and to avoid flaking you must have super good comfort game to build a strong emotional connection.
Plus, you have to seed throughout the interaction that you want to see her again. So from time to time you slip in the conversation that you and her should meet up again and you do this throughout the interaction. Some people call this technique "seeding"; you lay down little hints "seeds" when you're talking to her about meeting up later so it gets imprinted in her mind that she should see you again.
When she does the seeding, in other words she mentions about meeting up with you, that means it is on like donkey kong. Calibrate this but generally at that point you want to grab her number, stay a few more minutes and then leave. Generally the objective in a stripper pickup is to get the phone number and get her out on a date. If you have done everything well and saw most of the other signs of attraction see previous points then you're almost sure you can get the phone number.
Strippers only give out their phone numbers when they are really attracted to a guy.
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When you do get her phone number give yourself a shoulder pat. You've successfully picked up a stripper. Now you need to close the deal, but that's worth another post. I've tapped dozens of strippers Here is my favorite tricks. I tell them I dont like lap dances and if I do get one it's typically two girls at the same time. I pay one dance extra and never give them another one no matter how much they ask. I buy lap dances for the most frustrated looking guys or fuck I'll sell the girl to other guys and bet them I can get the guy to buy a lap dance even if they've already approached the guy and been turned down.
I buy the first dance only typically the guy will go more then one to not look like a pussy. I call this my PIMP move. It's a sick upgrade and so manipulative but works like a charm.
Almost all of my stripper pulls are same day sex. Which means you have to start before close of club as many clubs lock and monitor the girls so you have to leave prior to the end of the night. Join Date Jan Gender: Age 32 Posts The last time I went to a strip bar I didn't even think of game in terms of guidelines that are laid out here. I didn't even know about them. This was months ago. I don't know what happen, but all the cards fell in the right places and all the signs above were listed.
The only part that I screwed up was the closing at the end and she never called back. I basically sat at the bar the entire time and never faced the stripper pole unless a stripper pointed me to look and so I glance over my shoulder a bit. Most of the time, I just ordered drinks while talking to the bartender or anyone next to me usually another male patron.
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Then when I got in a good buzzed mood, I invited any stripper over for a drink and conversation. I bought the first one her drink, and she asked me for a lap dance. I declined and she left. After sitting a lone for a bit, a second one comes over and asks me if I wanted a dance. I declined but asked if she wanted a drink. She orders a beer, we chat a bit and then she leaves.
Most of my conversations were light hearted and I was having a good time talking to whoever. I never made a big deal about the drinks nor did I care if the strippers stayed or left. Now the girls leave me alone completely since they have old desperate geezers to pursue. They probably gave up on the idea of trying to sell me a dance by this time and figured I was just hear to drink and socialize An hour passes by and I'm still having a good time.
This time I'm talking to a young businessman next to me at the bar.
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He is slightly older than me, dressed up in a silk shirt and tie and dress pants. I on the other hand, just picked up my car from the autoshop, smelled like grease and a baggy T and gym pants. He is scouting the area and tells me how he'd do anything to date this one hot striper. For some reason I'm feeling extra confident today and and so I advise him not to stare at her so much for one.
Two don't accept any lap dances. Just as I said that, a HB 8 Latina sits right down next to me. The young businessman whispers over my ear and tells me "That's the girl I was talking about. She sat down next to me, but didn't ask me for a lap dance. She talked to the bartender instead. This got me curious since I was expecting to shoot down another lap dance offer tonight. Her conversation with the bartender ends. We look over at each other and I don't remember who opened first. We talked about where I came from and what I was doing so preoccupied with my alcohol in a strip bar.
The answer I gave her was that this was my free day from work, I just picked up my car from the autoshop here in town and now I just want to relax with some beer and music. I didn't indicate anything about looking for tits and ass. I didn't do it on purpose - it was just a natural part of my cockiness at the time but now that I look back on it, I know it was a big DHV to her. She asks about my work and I tell her how I do sales blah blah.
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I cut her off at mid sentence and ask if she wants to drink with me since I just want a drinking partner. She takes a drink I order, but goes to the bathroom first to pee.
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Two strippers come over and flirt with me. They're no longer asking me for dances in this joint. Now they're just coming to talk and mess around. They tease me and point to each other and saying how hot their friend is. Then they come over and play with my hat.