I think I was meant to read this today. I am going to implement this into my life. I look forward to reading more of your comments. I love this site! Best of everything to you! And good luck to Dreaming I hope you find someone special to accompany you as you go through this wonderful life we have been given. Do these guys state initially if they too are interested in long term relationships? I too love this site, as there a gems of advice that drift across the pages — always appropriate, always timely. Brav3, anita, Evan, lisakelly, and humour: Thank you all for taking the time to respond.
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Your insight and posing questions for me was helpful. I think my insecurities got the best of me. I also think a great point was brought up: Be comfortable with uncertainty.
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I also want to practice staying in the moment where I truly feel free and not putting so much pressure on how things could turn out in the future. You are welcome and thank you for your acknowledgements. This reminds me what my then therapist explained to me. He said two people are not always as close to each other; there is always motion: Like planets he said. It makes sense as everything in motion, from electrons, atoms to planets. So must it be with people, always moving and that includes moving closer and away, closer and away.
I remember how anxious I used to get with every movement away, and this may be exactly the problem here- whenever there is that natural, unavoidable moving away, of a guy moving away from you, you get alarmed, as if the moving away means moving all-the way-away. Well sometimes this is what happens, but not all the time. With this guy , his moving away did not mean moving all-the way away.
It was part of the natural motion. So, next time he moves away, remember this time, the natural motion concept, the fact he moved closer. And expect it as it happens for you as well. Once you get close to him, even if he remains as close for a while, you will naturally move away, a response to stresses in life not related to him, could even be indigestion causing one to move away. This is very clear to me now, my goodness, thank you for leading me to a better understanding of this motion principle in human relations.
Thank you for posting this interesting concept. There is someone I like and we do seem to be doing this motion dance also. And that in turn may make him move a little away in response to what may seem like less interest on my part. I think it is a good practice for all to follow. Can you copy your above post and paste it into a new thread, your own thread? Anita, This was a great quote: Glad you like the concept- it is reality, really, a scientific principle- so better take it into our mind so that we can evaluate situations more and more accurately. That is, women have highs and lows.
Men move in to check out a woman and then withdraw to ponder if they want to get serious or not. Its part of the process. If you seriously want a man, put on a dress and sit at Starbucks form say 3 to 4 every day. Read a book on say sewing. Often there are unmet expectations because you don't understand how your significant other feels about the relationship.
You only have your point of view. Studying body language and other verbal and nonverbal cues can help you understand a man's behavior on a date and know whether the relationship is worth pursuing.
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Study his eyes to see if they move from one of your eyes to the other, and then to your nose and mouth. This means he likes the way you look.
Check to see how often he blinks or if his pupils increase in size. Look at how he stands when he is around you.
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If he's usually facing you in a group setting, this is a good indication that he's interested in you. Look carefully at his feet and arms as well, since even a foot pointed in your direction can be a hint that he likes you. Observe him as he talks to you to see if he smooths his hair or puts his hands on his belt as an indication that he wants to look stronger or more handsome around you. I learned this thru trial and error and error error and error get my point? I never thought how bad it hurt my kids to have someone there, then gone the next day: Relationships are supposed to be built on trust!
This world is SO full of crumby people! Just working on living U and UR baby!
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Several days before your post I had broken up with a guy, 62 years old…. My boys got very attached to him. Hi Eric, I have a question. About a month ago I started dating an old aquaintance of mine and there were immediate fireworks. He knew that I am moving to Japan, so he wanted to just have fun, nothing serious, and enjoy our time together before I move. We did exactly that. We had sex and continued going on dates. He knows he made me cry and I called asking for him to meet me for coffee to give me some answers.
Is there anything I can do to reverse this? Will I just have to wait until I come back from Japan in 1 or 2 years before I try to reconnect with him? Once you come off as being needy, how do you get that to go away? Since when does placing blame on someone else help a situation? Not very effective or attractive ….
How would you feel if the guy had that attitude towards you? Nobody owes you anything… man or woman. Your comment was a temper tantrum, plain and simple. Easy and no hard feelings. I can never say no to him about sex. Sorry Ps they both sound like my ex!
My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 months and it has gotten rather serious. She is engaged and not happy so she has friended all the guys in his social group. This chick was able to go after her man and cheat on her friend and help her man cheat on her. She pretends to be every guys dream girl. My boyfriend has been her one constant guy friend in the group for years, almost like her way in. He has failed to see what she is now doing to our relationship by trying to make me look like a fool and make it seem that he is going in behind my back talking to her.
She tried to friend me and added me on facebook just to try to gain information. I see her for what she is and know exactly what is going on. She calls and texts him and I also and getting the impression that he has a crush on her but she put him in the friend zone years ago. He has made me uncomfortable with her multiple times now which i hold resentment against him for that and i am pissed at her for disrespecting me like that and him for not feeling disrespected because I am. This woman is able to do this stuff because everyone sweeps it under the rug in fear of group conflict… I am not fake, nor do i like this girl in any way.
I do pray u can work it out with him! I like when a man caresses me intimatly or hold me close — sex is far more than wham bam … Its the emotional connection — and perhaps if you are a bloke who cant understand this then you most likely lack sensuality, creativity and passion in the bedroom and most likely life — if a man judges me for beingrg needy early on in the relationship or far gone — this would be a definite turn off because I would believe the man to be emotionally immature — and too closed…..
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Next time an older man perhaps…. I find that people here use the word needy, clingy, desperate to describe women that want passion, love, romance, Etc. I agree with the writer. It is supposed to be an anti aphrodisiac. So can I ask is it neediness if you been dating a guy 34 months and you have a serious surgery limiting your mobility. Is it needy to ask for help?
Does it occur to men at all that you might be all she has to maybe take her to the hospital or stay with her or help her to the bathroom. When is too busy for you just to little! Explain the mans view to me.