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Not everyone does karaoke, and not everyone does online dating. Generally speaking, there are two types of people who will engage in such behaviors. Many will be people suffering from a depressingly external locus of identity.
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In karaoke these are the people who do it specifically for the praise and attention of others, which are vital to their self-worth. In online dating they are the serial monogamists, the people whose identities and self-worth revolve around dating someone you can identify them by how even their words reek of neediness.
The others, a smaller crowd, are motivated by confidence and interest. I, for one, am not a very open person. Being raised in a somewhat WASP-y family has led me to keep my personal life so personal that sometimes even friends are unaware that I have one. This reason, more than any other, is typically why I stop doing karaoke and stop trying to date online; they make me lie to people I care about.
I, for one, would rather walk through Times Square naked with a boner than explain to my parents that I met someone online, or share with my co-workers that I have plans for karaoke tonight, but other, less repressed and more confident, individuals can approach these situations shamelessly.
What do you think?
Who wants to pay a cover to see a free-for-all of half-drunk attention junkies fighting for a microphone? Online dating functions largely the same way: In my experience online dating and karaoke, possibly because of their temporal juxtaposition in my younger years, simultaneously exemplify the tragedy and comedy of the human experience. Why did my year-old self think it was a good idea to spend a weekend with a guy I barely knew; given the state of my life at the time, how could I not have foreseen that I would end up having a complete mental breakdown and cry hysterically for three hours on this strangers balcony?
Hopefully this time it will be permanent. According to the article, A new survey asked female and male members of a dating site the […].
It inspired me to do something completely out of my comfort zone and, after about 15 minutes of […]. I said I was not a fan of it but if you got a few drinks in me I could be convinced. He finally asked me out on a date to meet for drinks.
I think you can tell where this is going. He asked me to a bar that hosted a karaoke night. I agreed to the date because I was trying to be open-minded and step out of my comfort zone. I got to the bar and meet Dave face to face for the first time. He was cute and seemed normal from my first impression. I use the word amazing very loosely.
Then he asked me if I was ready to sing. I honestly did not think he would expect me to sing, especially since I only had just take the first sip of my drink.
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He made the suggestion that we each pick a song for each other and not tell one another what it is. Again, I agreed to step out of my comfort zone and try something different. We both filled out the sheet and handed it off to the DJ. I finished my first drink and he offered me another.
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I had to decline because I was driving and did not want to get drunk — especially on first date with a guy I just met. I was very sober when my name got called. Yep, that was the song I had to sing. I basically repeated myself the whole time had to dance around to fill the void of no singing. After, we both finished our songs we started talking and getting to know each other better. Come to find out, Dave was karaoke regular and even had a stage name. That was when I knew this was probably going to be our first and last date. He was a nice guy but I did not feel that spark and I knew I would never be that enthusiastic about doing karaoke on a regular basis.
However, even though that was not my cup of tea, for a first date it was great way to break the ice.